Monday, November 28, 2011

Anonymous Text Messages


Have you ever gotten a text message like this from an unknown number:
Niloloko ka lang niyang si Roman (or any other name for your macho dancer).
Your first reaction: Intriguing, right?

Then lots of questions will start to fill your head. From whom did this text come from? Is what this text message saying true? How did that texter know I am Roman's regular guest? And how the heck did that texter get my number? Then that might just mean... is my number being broadcasted and passed around by the macho dancers in the gay bar? Am I that in demand among hot men?

Before feeling all pretty with this "haba ng hair" moment, let me give you some context as to where this text message may actually come from. 


I've heard a lot of stories how fights among macho dancers start. A few are petty ones like cellphone theft or unpaid debt, but most fights are guest-related or girl-related (see previous post on "cock fights)." What usually ends in a brawl or fist fight actually can start from something very minor, like a simple damning text message.

For example, the frequent gay bar customer has his regularly tabled macho dancer, whom he gets for around weeks or months already. The entire bar knows how this customer showers this macho dancer with gifts, huge tips, drinks, etc. Then on one night, the customer arrives but his macho dancer is absent or unavailable, like seated with another walk-in client. So the customer chooses another guy from the selection of men. Little does the customer know that this other guy has some crooked intentions to win the customer. That's when this ugly thing called "siraan" happens.

How does "siraan" work while the new macho dancer is seated with the customer?

It can be a seemingly harmless comment from the new guy, but can raise doubts on the exclusivity of the original macho dancer: "Alam mo, maraming customers na iba yang si Hiro e (You know, that Hiro has a lot of customers)."

Or a revealed secret that can lessen the original guy's appeal: "Si Norman, meron yang asawa e, Japayuki. Tatlong taon na silang nagsasama. (That Norman, he has a wife, a Japayuki. They've been living together for three years)."

It can also be a character flaw, that can make the customer turned off with the original macho dancer: "Bakla nga yang si Tomas e. Nagpapa-ano sa likod. (That Tomas is really gay. He bottoms)." Wait, the "top" gay customers may actually find that more appealing, or unless they know about (and have proven) that fact already.

While the ones above are really very obvious examples, the smart, sly macho dancers wouldn't do the character assassination right inside the bar. These guys wouldn't want to be pinpointed as the cause of any separation of relationships. Thus, they wait for a few days or weeks, or after a few more returns of the customer in the gay bar, to make their move. Their weapon of choice is their cellphone, with a one-peso text message as their ammunition.

"Wag mo nang balikan si Rayver (Don't return to Rayver)," as sent by the daring macho dancer you seated most recently. "Ako na lang puntahan mo. Masaya naman tayo diba? (Get me again. We had fun, right?)" Standard lines of panunulot or pang-aahas ng customer.

The cowardly ones will send an anonymous text message, mostly likely from a prepaid number: "Alam mo bang nakita si Gerald, may kasamang babae na may ka-holding-hands sa Trinoma? (Did you know that Gerald was seen holding hands with a girl in Trinoma?)"

It just takes one seemingly harmless message to plant this seed of doubt in the mind of the customer, you. While finding out the identity of this message sender can be difficult, especially if you've tabled more than three guys in the bar, these messages can really come from anyone -- your bar manager who wants you to pick one of his talents and not your current ingrata macho dancer, or some other macho dancer who just wants your current macho dancer to go down.

And once the original macho dancer finds out about this pailalim tactic of damaging one's reputation, all hell will break loose. With this in mind, the good-natured respectful macho dancers won't attempt to steal another co-dancer's customer by texting their clients. Either they don't want to be involved in a brawl or they simply don't care being tabled by the monied customer. Or, they just don't have any load.

So, will you believe the message? While there may be some nugget of truth behind this message, keep in mind that the sender might only be another jealous guy. You can confront your macho dancer about it, with a message like "Did you ever go out with this lady named Kim in Trinoma?" However, you might just get a lame excuse, like "Nanay siya ng pinsan ko na gusto may gustong bilhing blah blah (She's my cousin's mother who wanted to buy blah blah)" or a straightforward denial, like "No!". Worse, he may think of you as a jealous stalker, and may eventually distrust you and further strain your relationship. But then, you can actually start a bar brawl between hot macho dancers. Haba ng hair mo talaga!

What would you then do after reading that anonymous message about your enamored macho dancer Roman from an unknown number? Perhaps, reply first with: Who u? But don't expect a decent reply after that.


GB Goer
Learn more: Lessons from Gay Bars in Manila
http://machosandhostos.blogspot.com/
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9 comments:

  1. Never thought that things like these really exist... For one, I don't give out my mobile number and two, I see to it that what happened inside the bar, stayed in the bar :-) he! he!

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  2. hi GB Goer, nabasa ko to pati ung isang post mo about dun sa brawl ng mga macho dancers at mga hosto.. ilan ung mga MD at hosto nagrambol? dalawang malaking grupo ba sila? minsan kasi, nagfa-fantasize ako, ano kaya kung may 2 grupo ng mga macho dancers na nagkainitan at nagrambulan after work.. yung tipong nagkasalubong sila sa daan -- let's say may 2 nag-away na MD at nagkanya-kanyang kampihan ung mga kasamahaan nilang MD, o kaya, may magkalapit na gay bar tapos nung labasan na ng mga MDs from both bars ay nagkasalubong ung 2 groups at nakainitan, naghamunan at nauwi sa bakbakan ng mga makisig na kalalakihan.. yung tipong labu-labo talaga.. may alam ka na bang nangyari na bang ganun?

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  3. hi GB Goer, nabasa ko to pati ung isang post mo about dun sa brawl ng mga macho dancers at mga hosto.. ilan ung mga MD at hosto nagrambol? dalawang malaking grupo ba sila? minsan kasi, nagfa-fantasize ako, ano kaya kung may 2 grupo ng mga macho dancers na nagkainitan at nagrambulan after work.. yung tipong nagkasalubong sila sa daan -- let's say may 2 nag-away na MD at nagkanya-kanyang kampihan ung mga kasamahaan nilang MD, o kaya, may magkalapit na gay bar tapos nung labasan na ng mga MDs from both bars ay nagkasalubong ung 2 groups at nakainitan, naghamunan at nauwi sa bakbakan ng mga makisig na kalalakihan.. yung tipong labu-labo talaga.. may alam ka na bang nangyari na bang ganun?

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  4. Hi Seeking09 Good to know that you don't give out your number. Proteksyon na rin sa sarili. Some give out another number, para hindi sa personal phone nagtetext. Unless na you want na may chumochorva sayong MD (texting kulitan lang and may pahapyaw na "namromroblema kasi ako").

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  5. Hi MBogs, that time, isipin mong 2 MD ang kasama namin, tapos yung malaking grupo ng mga hosto ang lumabas ng bar para 1) makipagaway, 2) makipapel or 3) chismis lang. Wala pa naman akong naririnig na grupo-grupo ng mga MD ang nagbabakbakan na ganyan. Usually naririnig ko within the bar lang, yung 2 o 4 ang nagbubugbugan. About groups of MDs from 2 bars, hindi naman nalalayong mangyari yun, given that certain bars are in close proximity from one another (ie. Makisig and Mankind, or White Bird and Machette). At teka, bakit mo naman fina-fantasize yun?

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  6. hu GB, omg twice pala napost ung comment ko..anyway, fina-fantasize ko kasi parehong grupo ng mga macho at seksing lalaki ang nagbubugbugan.. tapos buhol-buhol ung mga katawan nila, labu-labo.. ewan ko ba, weirdo lang talaga ako sa tingin ko at nalilibugan ako sa ganung eksena, more than ung may sumayaw sa harapan ko..parang orgy in a competitive/violent/machismo-flavored manner. basta, ewan ko kung anong dahilan at parang ako lang ata ang ganun mag-isip. btw, nag-email ako sayo about sa mga ganyan: rambol, showdown ng mga MDs in and out of gay bars.. pakibasa tapos reply ka rin or post ka ng topic about sa reply mo dun..dami kasi akong tanong dun e.

    lastly, gaano ba kalayo ang White Bird sa Machette at yung Makisig sa Mankind..

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  7. Hi Mbogs, yup I got your email na. Ganda nga ng questions e. Let me reply to you. Mahaba-haba ang reply kasi mahaba-haba ang email mo. :)

    Makising and Mankind: Walking distance. Parang SM Megamall A to Megamall B.
    White Bird and Machette: Walking distance. Parang entrance ng SM Mega A at yung ATM machine sa labas.

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  8. haha.. thanks GBG. wait for your answer(s). or you can post your reply in this blog so everyone can read too lalo na if it's interestingly informative.

    hala, ang lalapit lang pala nung mga gay abr na yun sa isa't isa noh. i can smell rambol/riot. parang ang sarap mag-abang sa labas ng mga bar na yun tuwing uwian time na at tingnan kung anong mga kaganapan..

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  9. hi gbg,
    if i have my way, i don't want to table same md all the time na pupunta ako sa bar. i prefer to table different mds each time i go there. maliban na lang kung exceptionally pogi yong md.

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